Dating and writing

Take it from someone who knows, dating someone and writing a book don't always go hand in hand.

I recently found my special someone, and we've been dating (officially) for just over a year now. At this point, we're out of the blind "you're so perfect" stage and into the "You're so perfect despite all your faults" stage. As my friend delicately put it, the cupcake stage is the best stage, it's when you're happy and everything in the world is great.

But how do you tell that special person in your life that you want to hoard yourself in your room or office all day and write? How do you tell them that it isn't them - it's just that weekend you feel like writing, and all of your creative juices are flowing?

For starters, if they love you then they'd understand and back off with no questions asked. It's rare, but if they truly want you to be happy, then they'll leave you to do what you want to do.

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Suppose they don't want to leave, what then?

It's hard to say what the right decision is sometimes. There's a proper way to balance work, relationships, and hobbies, but there is not one right way to do it.

You know you better than anyone else. You get to make the calls on if you want to do work during your free time. You can chose who you want to see and when, so you can make the call if you want to be with your significant other or if you'd rather be writing. The choice is your's even if it isn't easy.

I've told my boyfriend before that it was a writing day, and I'd be happy to face time later, but I'd rather focus on my books first. I've also decided to spend time with him and push writing off until later in the day.

Relationships are about compromise, so sometimes you have to push writing off, and other times you have to put plans on old. The decision is yours entirely, but all writers go through the trauma of choosing between love and writing.